Happy Wednesday, Wonderfully Witchy People!
Today we’re talking boundaries – one of my favorite subjects! Now, I don’t have a degree in psychology, so please know that I am only speaking from my own personal experience as an empath, and your feelings, experiences, or results may vary. Do all things for your highest good, and figure out what works for you.
As a person uniquely attuned to emotional and energetic frequencies, an empath might find themselves subject to performing emotional labor for everyone from loved ones to total strangers, forever acting as a trusting, open ear to listen and a shoulder to cry on – how lucky people are to find us!
Sometimes, as they say, you literally can’t even.
And you know what? That’s your right. Just because you can do it, doesn’t mean you have to do it. If your friend Ruth is calling you for the millionth time to complain about her boyfriend/boss/landlord, and you’re having an “off” day – maybe you’re busy, maybe you’re tired, whatever the reason – you have every right to say “No”! (Or, if you’re like me, “No, sorry – I’m busy/tired/have a case of the mean reds. Let’s catch up soon!”)
Or you can change the subject, make a mad dash for the exit, or take a really long drink of water. Really, it’s whatever you’re most comfortable and safest with doing.
Empath Affirmation: I joyfully create and apply healthy boundaries.
With that in mind, we must also be sure that our boundaries actually are healthy, and that we’re not shutting ourselves off to those we love. It can be very easy to be overwhelmed and shut down, but if we’re finding ourselves closed off to everybody, it might be time to go back to honoring our feelings and needs. Perhaps the relationship with the person isn’t working anymore, or perhaps we simply need additional time alone to recharge. Looking deeply, honestly, and lovingly at ourselves will help us establish our boundaries, and apply them with health and joy.
Tomorrow, we’ll be looking at the other side of the coin – asking for help! (Dun DUNN DUNNN)